This is a valid question, no? I mean, it’s not like there’s a lithmus test. Or is there? What is it in that case? What are you required to feel, what is required to exist in your relationship with someone, or, what should not be missing, etc? So peeps, let me know your views.
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March 30, 2007 at 11:21 am
pinkjellybaby
hmm i think it’s personal preference…. a few times i’ve had the ‘so we’re not sleeping with other people are we?’ thing
the last one with the Boy was: “well i assumed you were my girl as you had a toothbrush at my place”
so it’s all in the tooth brush! lol
seriously though, if you’re feeling like you don’t actually want to be seeing someone else, then bring it up in conversation
March 30, 2007 at 3:19 pm
Venting
I say it’s when you don’t want to date anyone else. Like, you have the option, someone is flirting with you or whatnot, and you just have no desire to date them.
March 30, 2007 at 9:25 pm
DG
I’m always exclusive. But then I don’t date, I only fling or kismet.
For those who date, I’ve always figured if you have to ask if you’re exclusive, then you’re not.
April 6, 2007 at 9:08 am
adventure boy
My oh my, this is very complicated. I mean it appears that if you don’t want to see someone else, then it’s ok to bring it up in conversation. But if you feel you have to ask, then you’re not. Talk about a Catch 22.
She does have a toothbrush here, one that I provided her with.
April 10, 2007 at 5:45 pm
DG
I know it sounds like a paradox! But thinking back, the only times I’ve had the impulse to ask about exclusivity were times when we weren’t. Or he wasn’t, I should say.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having the conversation, of course. Particularly if it’s a way of letting someone else know *you* are exclusive, as opposed to finding out if they are….
A toothbrush is certainly a vote for the best not to be looking elsewhere side.
June 11, 2007 at 2:11 pm
Vinca Pervanche
I don’t think that you’re exclusive until you’ve had “the conversation”, unless it’s otherwise obvious and you’re being wilfully blind to the fact.